How sad to be so naive

Everytime I would reach my four year old hands for her in her crib , she’d scream.  We’d fight over the front seat in my mother’s car.  But anytime anyone tried to harm her, I’d scream at them.  Of course, my little sister and I haven’t always gotten along ,but we are now facing the most difficult strength test.

I recently found out that my sister is pregnant.  This isn’t just any ordinary pregnancy in my eyes.  It is one that was not well thought out and involves a 19 year old girl with no money and no plan.  It also involves a 25 year old man who already has two children. 

I called my mother and when she said, “Are you sitting down?”  I knew that my sister was pregnant.  I zoomed down to my mother’s house and confronted her.  She wouldn’t get out of the car.  I was loud.  I was scary.  I was mad as hell!  How dare she dissapoint our family like this?  Who is this loser that fucks 19 year olds?  And what’s his name?  When will I have the opportunity to run over him?  All of these question were running through my mind.  If I would have gotten a hold of her, I would be in jail right now!

What people fail to understand is that when teenagers get pregnant, alot of the responsibility rests on their parents.  How will she pay for healthcare when she only works part-time and has no benefits?  If her “sperm-donor” already has two children, where will he the money from to help her with her child?  When will she have time to finish school?  Will she become dependant on the “system.”  What are her goals now?

I was extremely upset and I do understand that it is her decision to make.  I wish she would give the baby up for adoption or have an abortion.  I do believe in abortion.  How many of us have had one?  She is not ready mentally, physically or financially to have a child.   She is not mature. 

My question is how do we prevent this?  I just realized that we can’t.  The only thing we can do is show them the many paths to success by following them.  Why does it seem like everytime I look up another teenager is pregnant?  Couldn’t they just find a toy or another hobby?  What is the big deal with sex and teenagers?  Clearly, it needs to be addressed at the national level.

Young girls can be successful with a child ,but those who are have to have a plan and actually follow a path.  I do not want young girls or young adults to expect “handouts” from the government that were meant for people with challenges in their life. Section 8, welfare and EBT cards seem to be the only words that some express in their vocabulary.  I’ve heard many say, “Well, Imma gon ahead and have another cuz I don’t gotta do shit.”  I’m serious!  When will this lack of planning and responsibility dwindle? 

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